How To Create A Strong Relationship
Remember Names-
I can’t express how important it is to simply remember a name and what that means to someone. Most people don’t care to remember a name, it is usually just a face or “what’s his name?”. I work in sales and I have come to realize not only does saying their name build trust with them, but when they say my name (which is rare) it truly means a lot to me. I can tell that they are into the conversation more and appreciate my service.
Saying someone’s name shows you are paying attention to them and are willing to remember a minor thing that is so significant to their existence. It defines them and in turn it will attract them to you. It is so simple, but if you can do this then you can resolve concerns a lot easier.
I was watching television and the great Detroit Tiger’s radio broadcaster, Ernie Harwell, was mentioning not only players by name, but where they were from and information about them. Of course he probably had it written on a sheet of paper, but it came off sounding so real like he knew it personally and had a bit of an experience about it. It seemed like he grew up around them and knew them as little kids. I think that is one of the things that has made him a living legend in his field. When we begin to try to understand people then they will do the same to you and your life.
Empowerment-
If you want to build relationships then one of the best steps to do is to give power to your friends or acquaintances. They need to have responsibility that you are trusting them with, because then you will be connected with trust in their minds. You are offering something to them that you value so some day they may do the same for you. Now don’t act to look for return favors, but know that you are building a bridge with people your whole life and the last thing you want to do is start burning those bridges.
Now remember it has to be value that gives them excitement or at least a valued level of service that you are offering them. Be careful not to just drop off responsibility and inundate your friends or you will see it back firing on you. Offer them something that they would prize as much as you. When you begin to find satisfaction in their joy then you know that you are truly building a friendship.
Eye Contact And Acknowledge-
I can’t stress how important it is to pay attention and to do so with power. If you can give eye contact and compose your thoughts before you speak, then you will control most of your conversations and will have a greater chance to captivate your audience. This can be awkward. Try giving strong eye contact focus (without seeming weird) and notice how hard it is. This is the case especially when you are talking.
Next be willing to listen and acknowledge. It is funny how easy it is to validate people. It comes simply by restating what they have said. You can become riveting to any person simply by understanding and reiterating their point of view. This can give you so much power to be heard and respected yourself.
These are small things, but very important. Once you have made the choice to focus on giving people more importance than yourself, then you will find validation in your own existence in new ways and more satisfaction with any social interaction.
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Remember names is the hard thing!
I agree with you buddy. I have heard of people using note cards and writing names down on them to remind them. If you think about it, many teachers value the importance of remembering a name and a face together. They will go home and memorize it. This is one of my biggest short comings too, but I have realized that if you value someone enough then you will remember their name and their comments. I think that is really a key element to any type of love.